When someone you love starts losing their health, it can be difficult to cope with the overwhelming feelings and recognize when it's time to get help. Oftentimes the decline is slow, and one day you may wake up and suddenly realize your mom or dad, who have been independent all their lives, is suddenly dependent on you to complete many of their tasks of daily living.
This may leave you with feelings of powerlessness and anticipatory grief for an elderly parent whose health is declining. Unfortunately, there are no training classes to help adult children who are caring for aging parents. And it's just as difficult for many overly independent parents to learn how to accept care from their loved ones.
It doesn't matter what your background is, even healthcare providers with vast knowledge and understanding of how to care for their clients are caught unaware when someone close to them can no longer live on their own without assistance. It might be that your loved one’s resistance to help may seem illogical, so it's important to remember any changes they're going through may also be affecting their cognitive ability to recognize the need for change.
Although you might find it difficult, it's important to attempt to change your own thinking. By accepting the truth about the circle of life, it can liberate your emotions and allow you to find acceptance in a situation that isn't going to change. It is the natural order of things for parents to die before their children. Unfortunately, when the stark reality of a loved one's declining health is staring you in the face, it stirs up an amazing number of emotions.
It's important to take it one day at a time and remind yourself of the great times you've had in the past and those you still have time to create in the future. It's important you don't feel ashamed of any of the feelings you experience as this is a difficult time in life and it involves feelings of loss. However, sometimes denial can be a part of the experience, either as a deliberate or unconscious way of attempting to deal with grief and loss.
If you're feeling stuck, getting angrier than usual or are pretending nothing has changed, you might be in denial about your loved one’s situation. It's important to reach out for help and take a closer look at the true situation before your loved one experiences an unfortunate accident or further decline in health that results in the need for emergency care.
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How you cope with a situation will be personal to your own history and relationship with your loved one. Although you might feel as if the healthcare system is not age-friendly, at Harmony Home Care our professionals are here to answer your questions, give you information to help you make decisions and help you and your family make this transition. Contact us today for a free consultation and discover how a little help in the home may make all the difference in your lives.