We love our parents more than almost anything. As we’ve grown up under their nurturing guidance, we naturally want to return the favor as they reach their later stages of life. However, parents of senior age can sometimes be difficult to engage with in certain situations and circumstances, which can create stress or tension in your relationship. The important thing to remember is that there are practical tips for adult children to take to ease the tension and find peace.
Adult Children can Establish Friendly Relationship with Senior Parent
We are thankful to our parents for raising us, there’s no denying that. But, do you ever get the feeling that when it comes to taking care of them, it can seem like they are trying to get payback for what we did as kids? If this is the case, you are not alone.
As adults with a senior parent, we can live in a stressful environment with our folks or decide to make a change for the better. If your parent has a health condition, depression, or stubborn attitude that makes it difficult to take care of them, here’s some ways to take down the stress level a few notches.
Follow these 3 Tips to Cultivate a Great Relationship with your Senior Parents!
1. Find Balance and Control
There may come a point where you need to start managing things for your parents besides passwords to their various accounts. If your parent(s) is unable to take care of themselves due to an injury or condition, you’ll be first in command to assist them with their daily life.
Most people and especially seniors value some form of independence. As you’re adjusting, it’s easy to “bother” your parents by trying to help them as much as you can, and sometimes not helping them enough.
Find the balance your parent(s) needs in order to fully function but not feel like they have lost complete control of their life. Don’t forget that your parent’s physical AND mental degradation contributes to the frustration on both sides but you have to take the lead in taking the stress out.
2. Lay the Groundwork Early
No matter the age of your parent, communicating about the future should start today. When you open the lines of communication as early as possible, words like “nursing home” and “walker” lose their sting later on.
Imagine the consequences of families who don’t start this talk early enough before something serious happens. A parent who is losing their ability to walk but doesn’t want to be professionally taken care of might make it extremely difficult to find proper home care services and risk getting further injured. For the seniors who never create a will or designate beneficiaries, this can create tension and turmoil among all family members.
3. Skip the Legwork
Seniors view their home as their life. Abandoning it means abandoning their life, including the memory of their time with spouse and family.
Home care allows senior adults to still have that independence they crave while getting the professional attention they need. Home caregivers are there to help perform daily tasks, remind them to take all of their pills and create an environment for them in which they can thrive.
As an adult child, you get to go back to enjoying time with your parent rather than struggling to balance your life, work and family. You’ll also have more time to take care of yourself so you can provide better support when it is needed.
Harmony is founded with a single focus in mind: providing compassionate home care and home healthcare to the residents of Southwestern Pennsylvania.
Our trustworthy caregivers are ready to lend a helping hand to your mother, father, children, and loved ones in Indiana County, Westmoreland County, Cambria County, and many more locations throughout the region. Contact us and one of our patient advocates will be happy to discuss how Harmony’s programs can help your family today.
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